I guess he has different logic for women and men, that's why all women move faster and are actually better characters.
In terms of feelings, I kinda feel Dylan took the lead in the last event. Sophia started seeing him more than a son but this is something not emphasized anywhere for Ellie. For Ellie she is more concerned as a mother about her sexual life, that too because Ellie asked her to about it. Physically ofcourse, Ellie uses others as her shield, like first she used Patricia, then Julia saying if she can do it for them, she should do it for her too. Dylan does not have any such reference or person to use to his advantage.
So in the end as I said, it really comes down to the approach.